Why?

Yesterday, I saw a very sad video on Facebook. It was of a little boy, maybe 3 or 4 years old, screaming cuss words in a car while his mother and her friend laughed and thought it was funny. I just felt so sorry for that little boy. 

When he begins school and uses the same language to his teacher or another adult, he isn't going to get laughed at, or urged on. He is going to get corrected and punished. He won't understand why. The behaviour has been encouraged for so long, to him it's a way of getting parental approval. 

There will also be other children, children who have been taught such words are bad OR may never have heard them before, who will see this little boy's vocal acting out and go home with the stories, and whose parents will admonish them to keep away from him. Thus he will lose possible friendships from those who might have helped him to make his way through school/life. His options will be limited to only the children who may have similar behaviours.

It make me mad that these "parents" do not love their children enough to not wish on them, and create, such a hard journey for them.

The come some of the excusers:
"Well, the mother is young herself!"
"She's just a child, raising a child"

I'm sorry. I was 16 when  had my son, and he was the most precious thing in my life. There was no way I would have taught him to cuss and created a situation where he thought that it was acceptable.  I wanted only the best for him. Yes, I made mistakes along the way, but he was "the heart of my heart". The centre of my world. I felt it was me and him, against the world, and I loved him so much that it hurt.

How is that other little boy going to grow up in this word and realise what might have been his true potential? With the mother that he has, he has no chance.

I am someone who fights for children whenever I can. I look at this situation and think ... why is this not a reason for intervention? Why is this mother not faced with the possibility of "aiding and abetting in the delinquency of a minor" and forced to take parenting classes and taught to actually BECOME a mother? If she refused to work through what it takes to turn her child's life around, then I guess maybe I'd even agree with foster care. Moving into a home where he could see that the verbal tirades and threatening stances were not acceptable behaviours, and beginning to eradicate that viewpoint so that he could learn fresh ways and get a chance to grow up with a good future.

As it is, right now, this poor child is going to grow up to be a loud, vocally disrespectful, physically acting out, young man ... and then, what will his options be? It saddens me to think that his mother's legacy will be probably a jail cell.

Such a waste!